Helping oneself

How can I help someone if I can't help myself?
I have problems situations in which I cannot control....I have to choose to go through with them or leave them. 
When I go through with them I choose and I have to stand by my decision.  I have to be strong.  I cannot let myself fall because the only one that can help me is myself. 
I have to have hope inspiration positive attitude.  I am in charge of my own feelings and I shouldn't let anyone else choose my feelings for me.